And one abandonment doesn't mean Mom will be eternally single. One good friend with two sons cheerfully told me at the time that, as women, we inherently want girls — "but I love my boys. At the beginning, I could answer, Your father lives in a different state and maybe one day we'll visit him. I love ballet and I wanted to share this with him. So when it came time to potty train my son, he automatically wanted to sit and pee — which I totally allowed. Girl Power is a big deal in the eyes of a little boy. His father sometimes sends child support and they've never met.