At the woman's request, they decided to make sex just about her — so that it flowed from her interest and followed the course of her arousal. In your book, you say that the goal is for women to have a "profound sexual experience. We've seen this proliferation of experts pandering to the lowest common denominator. It's a somatic approach to sexual healing that can — but does not necessarily — include genital touch. February 14, AM ET. Pleasure so deep it felt like a homecoming, like they had been restored to themselves, to the depths of their potential. There is no volume of sex that's more or less good.